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How do I heal from the trauma of a "failure to stop at stop sign ticket.?"?

I stopped at the stop sign but motocycle policeman gave me a ticket. I know he "hangs" out a certain stop waiting to ticket people. I even saw him a couple of weeks later, at the same time, stop another driver at the same block where he stopped me. I asked a neighboring church where he stations himself if he's there everyday. They told me he's there a lot of days in the week but not everyday. Anyway I stopped but he tried to tell me I didn't. I kept my mouth shut so he wouldn't have a lot of notes. I just said I stopped...nothing else. Anyway I'm traumatized because I'm the nerdiest driver on the planet. I follow all the rules and prioritize safety because I've known some people who've died in accidents, another a quadriplegic, another a paraplegic. Anyway I'm so nerdy that if a school zone light is flashing at 2am, I still go 25mph even though the kids are sleeping. So why am I traumatized? Because I got a ticket for obeying traffic laws. I'm going to court to fight this. Nevertheless regardless of the outcome, I"m not driving as safely as I used to. Before the incident I drove safely and obeyed laws because I don't want anyone hurt. Getting a ticket was secondary because human lives are more important but now when I drive I still think about safety but I get freaked out about getting a ticket. It's like 50/50 now. It's wrong for me to drive like that. Safety is firtst period but I can't help it. I picture that motorcylce cop every time on the road. ONe night I was driving in a seedy part of town at night (the seedy part is only 10 minutes from the good area but got lost). I was scared but also freaking out because that's a good time for a policeman to give a ticket. When you're lost and scared you may make wrong turns or such and the policeman will get you. I was so ashamed of myself for thinking about a ticket as much as my life. Another time I was in an area of town I kind of know but not perfectly at night. I was so scared to make turns because there are so many one way roads. I saw signs but scared maybe I wasn't reading them right and a policeman would get me. How do I heal? How can I drive thinking about safety first rather than get paranoid about getting a ticket. I want to drive the way I did before that motorcycle cop gave me a ticket for something I didn't even do. He's made me feel like such a loser. I was on that road he gave me a ticket because I took a Final Cut Pro class. The center said while I took Final Cut Pro I could use their machines as much I needed. I planned going as much as I could every day but when I got the ticket, I only went to the class. I refused to use the machines that the center said I could use for free (because after the course is over, you have to pay an hourly fee to use machines). I allowed this cop to dictate my life. He's made me such a loser. I was so scared to drive to the center to use the machines. What can I do? Help!!!

Public Comments

1. go pick up a 12 pack and start drinking them. you need to chill. get a lawyer and get the ticket reduced or dropped. my lawyer did mine for $100.
2. Is this a serious post...? I find it really hard to believe someone can be traumatized for getting a traffic ticket. Grow the hell up and move on.